Have you ever feel tired of your old self? When you applied to a company, get rejected, and feel frustrated. I mean, you possess only limited skills and knowledge.
When you suddenly feel down because of your unpleasant experience is hunting you
Many circumstances in our life give us a moment of deep realizations
I want to share the five big lessons I learned from my personal experience.
LIFE LESSON #1:
DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME DOING NOTHING, KEEP LEARNING UNTIL YOU GAIN NEW SKILLS.
One of the greatest “adulting goals” you ever had is building a strong professional profile.
Some of my friends have achieved an impressive background in a different industry. I compared myself to them and figured out that I have only a few skills.
I realized that instead of doing nothing, I should keep learning. Finishing basic educational background is never be enough.
LIFE LESSON #2:
CONTROL YOUR NEGATIVE EMOTIONS IN EVERY PROBLEM YOU ENCOUNTER
This is my weakest spot. Handling heavy emotions in difficult situations. If you fail, you will end up losing yourself.
I remember the dark moments during my college days when there’s an emotional rebellion towards to my parent because of their over strictness.
Hating them without understanding their purpose makes me feel that I’m a heartless daughter in the family.
LIFE LESSON #3:
NOT ALL OF YOUR FAVORITE PEOPLE WILL STAY ON YOUR SIDE, BE EMOTIONALLY INDEPENDENT.
People come and go. Yes, it happens a lot to everybody at any time. Well, that’s life.
Losing friends one by one, infatuated relationships, and the most painful of all, the sudden death of loved ones.
Let’s say you’re the CEO of your company, you gave too much trust in employees. Surprisingly, they left for personal reasons. Your arousing disappointed emotions are telling you that not all employees will stay and become loyal to you.
Be emotionally prepared in any circumstances to avoid mental breakdowns.
LIFE LESSON #4:
ACCEPT YOUR FLAWS AND IMPERFECTIONS. START LOVING YOURSELF.
I have a lot of congenital defects in my body. Even though it wasn’t visible, it lowers the capability to boost my self-esteem. The reason why sometimes I can’t accept myself.
Every time I feel down because of my condition, I use social media to entertain myself. Out of nowhere, I saw a famous deaf influencer in my newsfeed. (We’re FB friends, btw)
She is beautiful, and her confidence is extremely great despite her hearing disability. Her advocacy is to help and inspire the deaf community to deal with their imperfections.
Seeing her achievements often makes me smile. She made me realize that having a disability is never be a hindrance.
If you use your flaws and imperfections as your motivation, then unexpected things will happen.
Later on, I started accepting who I am. It’s an initial key to reaching your goals. Always trust and believe in yourself.
LIFE LESSON #5:
LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND MOVE FORWARD
Emotional baggage like regrets, guilt, and inner criticism always makes us feel uneasy. Right?
Mistakes cannot be undone unless you fix it.
The toxic attitude from my past relationship is haunting me all the time. It takes a couple of years to move on and accept what I have done.
To be honest, I suffered from extreme inner criticism, guilt, and regrets after we broke up. I tried to fix it up, but I failed in my attempts.
This heartbreak serves an eye-opening lesson for me. A way of telling me to eliminate the toxicity and change for the better.
Erratically, unwanted personal experiences bring us the utmost life lessons.
And when you apply life lessons learned from your personal experience like me, that is the beginning of absolute self-growth.
Just like where I am right now, focusing on self to improve more. I believe that accomplishing self-growth is the greatest personal achievement in our life.
I would like to end this by saying this quote:
“IF THERE IS NO STRUGGLE, THERE IS NO PROGRESS.”
– FREDERICK DOUGLAS
How about you? What’s your thought about self-growth?