Most of us dream of having a fairytale-like kind of relationship. We often find the “right” person and settle down. Many of us dream of having a long-term relationship that lasts, or as they say, grows old together. But not every relationship is promising. Most often, our romantic partnerships end in dissolution. And here are some of the reasons why most relationships fail:
1. Lack of trust
Not having trust in a relationship can be very dangerous. The absence of trust allows potential negative, harmful thoughts, actions, and emotions such as jealousy, negative attributions, suspicion, paranoia, and other toxic behaviour. Over time, this can lead to unhappiness and depression, or worse, physical abuse.
2. Lack of commitment
How committed are you or your partner in your relationship? How serious are you in the relationship? Do you see your loved one as special, right? Or just an ordinary person right now? Either way, commitment indeed has a significant impact in keeping it together.
3. Communication Issues
Good communication is key to any successful relationship. And it means one speaks while the other listens or vice versa. We must express our thoughts and feelings openly to our partners to understand each other. Good communication makes any relationship harmonious.
4. Relational abuse
Abuse can be defined as the mistreatment of an individual. It comes in many toxic forms, such as; physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse. If these are present in a relationship, it can cause great harm and tremendously impact the victim.
Narcissism is commonly characterized by excessive self-involvement or self-importance that causes a person to disregard others’ needs. A narcissist person usually lacks true intimacy in a relationship, and they often engage in narcissistic abuse by using someone as their “supply” to feed their ego.
6. Unhealthy vices
Some of us have unhealthy life habits. Examples of these are substance abuse, gambling, addiction, alcoholism, and the worst of all, infidelity. These habits can affect a relationship in a destructive way.
Some relationships, after been together in a short while, have grown apart. This could be due to a lack of commitment, different expectations or different priorities in life. Or it was simply fallen out of love. It may also be just the natural process of new mate finding.
8. Financial Issues
The longer a couple stays in a committed relationship, the more they are faced with financial challenges. Disputes involving money can sometimes tap into our psychological needs and fears, including trust, safety, security, and survival.
9. Different priorities
For some, having a family is their primary center of gravity. But some partners aren’t just ready for a total time commitment yet. Some pursue achieving their passion, goals, dreams, or professions. Thus, it usually causes a conflict or different priorities.
10. Different expectations
We are often drawn to each other for various reasons at the beginning of the relationship. It can either be a physical attraction, sexual passion, compatibility, or common interests. However, walking through a journey together for a long time is not that easy. Along the way, we may discover that “what we want” may differ from “what I want.”
For a romantic relationship to last, it takes a lot of time, effort, trust, understanding, commitment, and mutual support for both parties. With the above-mentioned common failures in a relationship, we could be aware of what we are to face and somehow survive the test of time.