10 Common Reasons Why Do Relationships Fail

Most of us dream of having a fairytale-like kind of relationship. We often find the “right” person and settle down. Many of us dream of having a long-term relationship that lasts, or as they say, grows old together. But not every relationship is promising. Most often, our romantic partnerships end in dissolution. And here are some of the reasons why most relationships fail:

1. Lack of trust 

Not having trust in a relationship can be very dangerous. The absence of trust allows potential negative, harmful thoughts, actions, and emotions such as jealousy, negative attributions, suspicion, paranoia, and other toxic behaviour. Over time, this can lead to unhappiness and depression, or worse, physical abuse.

2. Lack of commitment

How committed are you or your partner in your relationship? How serious are you in the relationship? Do you see your loved one as special, right? Or just an ordinary person right now? Either way, commitment indeed has a significant impact in keeping it together.

3. Communication Issues

Good communication is key to any successful relationship. And it means one speaks while the other listens or vice versa. We must express our thoughts and feelings openly to our partners to understand each other. Good communication makes any relationship harmonious.

4. Relational abuse

Abuse can be defined as the mistreatment of an individual. It comes in many toxic forms, such as; physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse. If these are present in a relationship, it can cause great harm and tremendously impact the victim.

5. Narcissism

Narcissism is commonly characterized by excessive self-involvement or self-importance that causes a person to disregard others’ needs. A narcissist person usually lacks true intimacy in a relationship, and they often engage in narcissistic abuse by using someone as their “supply” to feed their ego.

6. Unhealthy vices

Some of us have unhealthy life habits. Examples of these are substance abuse, gambling, addiction, alcoholism, and the worst of all, infidelity. These habits can affect a relationship in a destructive way.

7. Incompatibility

Some relationships, after been together in a short while, have grown apart. This could be due to a lack of commitment, different expectations or different priorities in life. Or it was simply fallen out of love. It may also be just the natural process of new mate finding.

8. Financial Issues

The longer a couple stays in a committed relationship, the more they are faced with financial challenges. Disputes involving money can sometimes tap into our psychological needs and fears, including trust, safety, security, and survival.

9. Different priorities

For some, having a family is their primary center of gravity. But some partners aren’t just ready for a total time commitment yet. Some pursue achieving their passion, goals, dreams, or professions. Thus, it usually causes a conflict or different priorities.

10. Different expectations

We are often drawn to each other for various reasons at the beginning of the relationship. It can either be a physical attraction, sexual passion, compatibility, or common interests. However, walking through a journey together for a long time is not that easy. Along the way, we may discover that “what we want” may differ from “what I want.”

For a romantic relationship to last, it takes a lot of time, effort, trust, understanding, commitment, and mutual support for both parties. With the above-mentioned common failures in a relationship, we could be aware of what we are to face and somehow survive the test of time. 

14 Responses

  1. My last relationship ended because of different expectations. It’s really important that you and your partner see things eye to eye so you won’t waste time and get disappointed.

  2. I agree to all those tips you have mentioned. They are true in some aspects. Essentially, a good relationship requires hard work, constant forgiveness and communication. I can relate to lack of compatability in my failed experiences in the past. ????

    1. Very true jhunnie. For me trust is very important, once broken mahirap n mabuo. Be strong. God bless u????????

  3. I got picky before deciding to enter a relationship. Commitment is number 1 for me, then the vices, I cannot tolerate that. This article would be helpful even for those who are already in a relationship.

  4. I love how this applies to all kind of relationships, platonic or romantic. Personally, communication is very important to me. There are lots of factors here that can be avoided if we only know how to communicate properly.

  5. I guess in any relationships, it is important to have a good understanding and communication that leads to trusting each other. Like in my case, I told my husband (back when we are first dating) that I don’t cook and not fancy doing it. However, he loves cooking so I would be so happy that he do his passion on cooking. Its a win-win!

  6. yes and di lang love ang bumubuhay sa isang relationship. ang both should also work on it. di pwedeng isa lang! and hopefully merong iisang future na iniisip.. kako sana me future na iniisip… minsan kasi wala.. yikes.

  7. I haven’t had a relationship yet, but at least I already know what makes a bad one. I mean we say we don’t like these things, but when you’re in that situation already, it’s kinda harder lol

  8. These are all true. Of course, relationships need commitment plus it also has to be nurtured through time. No relationship is perfect but the people involved should be committed to make it work.

  9. Agree will all those you put here. Sad to say even if you are compatible but have some issues you mentioned like financial ( most common), narcissist partner and communication gap, relationship fails ????

  10. I had been in relationships and they did fail because of one or more of the above mentioned reasons. Come to think of it , it might be close to imposible to be in a relationship if I am to be ever cautious. I will still choose hope, faith and love… love doesn’t just surrender easily.

  11. The fact that we acknowledge the reason(s) for a failed relationship is a step forward in moving on to a better and more fruitful one. Keep moving forward, my dear. As Forest says: life is a box of chocolates.

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